My name is ADionne and I am a "Dream Pusher" who loves helping people discover their purpose in life and hidden potentials. Also I love exploring life and the world, learning and doing new things keeps me excited about the future. Please take a look around and if something inspires or encourages you, please comment and share. Remember you are never too old to pursue your dreams!
When I was young I used to hear older people say “he lives in the streets” Now that doesn’t mean that particular person actually lived in the streets. It’s just a saying that explains how a person prefers doing things outside of the home more. Things like hanging with friends outside in their neighborhood, at the club, playing sports doing anything but staying in the house.
In urban streets, low-income neighborhoods or as some would call it the hood; existing in the streets can create a certain mindset that is brought on by the environment, atmosphere, and associations. In which many are not able to elevate from. If a person never experiences any other place but their neighborhood he sets unconscious limitations on his life.
Never the less if a person is constantly on the go but travels outside the neighborhood his limits can become limitless. Since he is exploring other environments he is familiarizing himself with different people and cultures.
Many kids are born to live in the streets because that all his family knows. So it’s difficult for a person to step out of a comfort zone that has been passed on for generations.
Case in point: I grew up in the hood with a big family and lots of friends. The neighborhood was very close although it had its share of drama. As I grew near the end of my high school years I had already outgrown my neighborhood. For the simple fact, I didn’t go to the neighborhood school and my mother always kept me involved in outside activities such as dance, modeling and talent shows. I signed up for various sports and was writing music constantly going to the studio. Since my time was so occupied with productive commitment although I had many friends in the neighborhood I had no desire to be there and left straight out of high school never to return to live but only visit.
In view of the fact that I started venturing out the neighborhood before leaving high school, I was exposed to different lifestyles and unconsciously broke through my invisible comfort zone at a young age.
Throughout the years I would go visit from time to time as my family still lived in the neighborhood. Each time I would visit it would be a bitter sweet moment as I would learn of the many people I grew up with going to jail, getting killed or strung out on drugs.
A place that was once filled with laughter and fun had become a place of despair. Each visit would bring me to the realization that nothing or no one that stayed in that neighborhood changed. Maybe the number of times someone was locked up, someone that had a baby on my last visit was pregnant again or someone I use to play with fell a victim to a drug addiction. Even worst someone I asked about was shot to death.
While I would be happy to see old friends and reminisce, with inside my heart would be saddened to see after so many years men that were once boys standing on the corner selling drugs, shooting crap or just hanging, are still on the corners doing the same thing. The difference is some have their sons standing on the corner with them also.
They hustle money not to get out of the neighborhood to do bigger and better things. However, to buy expensive cars, Jewry, sneakers, and clothes to impress others in the same neighborhood they knew for years.
You ask what kind of insanity is that? Well, I say the neighborhood is really a world to most that live in it and too scared to try something new. For many, their mind is embedded with the fact that they are the celebrities of their streets. Everyone knows them and while most would think the so-called stars of the neighborhood are confident those people are really insecure with whom they are. Consequently, they don’t have the courage to explore new heights for the reason that the neighborhood is their security blanket.
I have witnessed numerous dads have more than one kid in the neighborhood and choose to move on after failed relationships or they fell victim to the streets and sent off to prison. Leaving his responsibilities for the mother to carry alone. As a result, the hood is filled with many single moms. Some of which are able to juggle both roles and keep things and their kids in perspective. While others, are not strong enough or could care less.
In some cases, I have seen the father step up to the plate and take on both roles because the mother left, was on drugs or incarcerated.
Often in that case for countless boys and girls to fill the void they fall victim to seeking acceptance from the street and there the cycle begins for another street hostage.
Point: A cycle is hard to break; they say it takes 21-31 days to create a new habit. But if you’re born into one how would you know you have a habit that needs to be broken? We have to open our eyes and realize this is the world we live in not a neighborhood or a block. We have to want better for our kids and gain the strength to try the unknown while we are scared.
After seeing the misery the streets can bring I made a promise to my self that I would work hard to give my child an option at life. Not to shun the hood or those who currently have no choice because of income or other circumstances. I understand clearly the hood is what made me who I am today!
But if the hood is where you have to be it doesn’t mean your mentality has to be hood! Get outside your box take a trip on the bus, subway or train to another side of town you have never been to. Walk around and learn about a new environment. Pack some lunch and take your kids to a park in the suburbs. If you don’t have a computer go to your library and Google free things to do in your city. You can make a schedule and every month take your kids to a different park or event for free outside of transportation fare.
It’s time for you and your family to be exposed to new things.
Remember this when you first learned how to ride a bike you were scared you were going to fall off. And when you first learned how to swim you were afraid you were going to drown. And everybody can relate to the first day at a new school wondering what the kids were going to be like. Never the less you got through all those stages in your life. Therefore look at leaving your comfort zone (neighborhood) as another stage you have to conquer in your life.
Although the hood can seem like a hopeless place of change there is those hand full of activist that aid in pumping new energy into the neighborhood. Which can be anyone that grew up there and decided to stay and encourage people. On a positive note, I have seen some old friends that have been incarcerated or had a past drug addiction turn their lives completely around. And go on to share their hardships and experiences to spare someone else’s life.
Remind yourself daily God made the world, not just a neighborhood. Also, he made us all with purpose and how can you walk in your purpose setting limits on yourself. Be bold and get out, you never know how contagious your actions may be to the neighborhood. You might be the one God called to free the rest of the street hostages!
ADIONNE – YOUR DREAM PUSHER
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